Screens are now an integral part of every household and school. In today’s advanced world, it’s unrealistic to completely keep our kids away from screens. Instead, as parents, we can determine how much screen time is appropriate for our kids at various ages. By setting boundaries and limits, we can help our children develop healthy screen habits and a balanced relationship with technology.
Here are 6 ways to set healthy boundaries around screen time without being a “bad mom” or “monster mom”.
1. Model Healthy Behavior:
Remember, children learn from what they see, so set boundaries for yourself too! It can be contradictory to limit their screen time while you’re constantly on your phone. We understand that many adults have jobs that require phone use, but set clear working hours and communicate them to your kids. This way, you can model healthy phone habits and show your kids that screen time limits apply to everyone, not just them.
2. Explain The Why:
Help your child understand the reasons behind setting screen time limits. Explain how excessive screen time can affect the health of their eyes and brain, and emphasize the importance of in-person social interaction with peers and friends. Encourage body awareness by teaching them to recognize their body’s signals, such as:
- If their eyes feel tired, it’s time to take a break from screens
- If their neck or back aches, they should stop using screens and move their body
- If they find themselves constantly talking about video games or videos, it’s a sign to get involved in more physical activities
By understanding these reasons and cues, your child can develop healthy screen habits and a balanced life style.
3. Involve Your Child in Setting Boundaries:
Encourage your child to help decide on screen time schedule. Consider their daily routine and ask them to suggest when they’d like to use their screens and for how long. Empower them to take responsibility for their own time and let them know that you trust them. Offer a gentle reminder 10-15 minutes before it’s time to switch off their device, as agreed upon by them.
For example, you could say: ‘Hey, remember we agreed that you’d play outside for an hour before using your tablet? You’ve got 15 minutes left, then it’s time to put it away and go play!
4. Create Screen-free Zones:
Designate areas like the dinner table or bedrooms as screen-free zones. Establish a rule that nobody, including parents, is allowed to use phones or gadgets in these areas. Enjoy quality family time together, free from distractions. You can also:
- Choose a topic of the day to discuss during dinner or family time
- Encourage your kids to participate in decision-making processes when applicable
By doing so, you’ll create a healthy and engaging environment that fosters meaningful conversations and connections.
5. Practice Empathy and Understanding:
Acknowledge your child’s feelings when they can’t use screens. Understand that it will be challenging for them to adapt to these changes initially, and they may feel frustrated or bored at times. Show empathy and validate their emotions by saying something like: ‘I know it’s tough to sit without screens right now, especially when you’re used to watching or playing on your phone or tablet.’
Get involved with your child in alternative activities, like:
- Sharing stories about what you did for fun before gadgets existed
- Playing board games together
- Encouraging them to read books, newspapers, or comics
By showing understanding and offering engaging alternatives, you’ll help your child navigate these changes and develop healthier screen habits.
6. Be Consistent and Patient:
Setting boundaries requires time, effort, and understanding. Your patience and consistency are key. I encourage you to use the same words every time you emphasize a boundary, providing clarity and predictability. Give your child time to adjust to their new screen time schedule. They may challenge you with strong emotions, but staying calm, regulated, and firm on boundaries will ultimately benefit them.
Remember, consistency and patience are essential in establishing healthy screen habits.
Be mindful to approach the conversation with empathy and respect, focusing on teaching healthy habits rather than imposing strict rules.