From Chaos to Calm

How Setting Routines Saved My Sanity (and My Kids’)

Hey fellow parents! Let’s be honest, parenting is a wild ride. Some days are filled with sunshine and rainbows, and others… well, others are a chaotic blur of forgotten lunches, last-minute homework scrambles, and bedtime battles that feel like they’ll never end. Sound familiar? That was my life, before I discovered the magic of routines.

I have two amazing kids, Azlan (8) and Ilyana (6). Before we implemented a solid routine, our house was a whirlwind of unpredictable schedules and last-minute panic. I was constantly running late, forgetting things, and feeling like I was always one step behind. The kids? They were just as frazzled, bouncing between activities with no real sense of structure. It was exhausting for everyone!

I remember one particularly chaotic morning. Azlan had a school project due, Ilyana had a presentation in class, and I had a crucial work meeting. We were all running around like headless chickens. Azlan couldn’t find his project, Ilyana was complaining about her tummy ache, and I was frantically trying to get everything ready. By the time we finally got out the door, we were all a stressed-out mess. That’s when I realized something had to change.

I started researching routines and schedules, and I was amazed at the benefits. It wasn’t just about making my life easier; it was about creating a more stable and predictable environment for my kids. So, we embarked on a journey to create routines that worked for our family, and let me tell you, it was a game-changer!

Why Routines Are More Than Just Schedules (They’re Sanity Savers!)

• Sense of Security and Predictability: Kids thrive on predictability. Routines provide a sense of security and stability, knowing what to expect throughout the day. This reduces anxiety and helps them feel more in control.
• Funny Story: When we first started implementing our bedtime routine, Ilyana was so excited about the “story time” part that she’d start gathering her books an hour early!

• Improved Time Management Skills: Routines help kids learn to manage their time effectively. They learn to prioritize tasks and understand the concept of time.
• Did you know that kids who have established routines tend to be more organized and better at planning as they grow older?

• Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Predictable routines minimize the stress of the unknown. Knowing what comes next helps kids feel calmer and more relaxed.

• Enhanced Independence and Self-Reliance: When kids know what to expect, they can take on more responsibility. Routines empower them to do things independently.
• Azlan used to forget his homework all the time. Now, with a set after-school routine, he packs his bag and finishes his assignments without constant reminders.

• Better Sleep Habits: Consistent bedtime routines promote better sleep. A regular sleep schedule helps kids fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer.

• Stronger Family Bonds: Routines can create opportunities for quality time. Shared routines, like family dinners or bedtime stories, strengthen family bonds.

• Improved Behavior: Children with routines tend to exhibit fewer behavioral problems. Predictability reduces frustration and minimizes power struggles.

Our Routine Journey: From Chaos to Calm

We started with simple routines, like a morning routine, an after-school routine, and a bedtime routine.

Morning Routine: Starting the Day Right

1. Wake up at the same time every day.
2. Get dressed and make the bed.
3. Eat a healthy breakfast.
4. Pack school bags and double-check everything.
5. Brush teeth and get ready to go.

After-School Routine: Winding Down and Getting Organized

1. Have a snack and relax for a few minutes.
2. Complete homework or school projects.
3. Have some free playtime.
4. Prepare for dinner.

Bedtime Routine: Sweet Dreams Ahead

1. Take a warm bath or shower.
2. Brush teeth and put on pajamas.
3. Read a book or tell stories.
4. Say goodnight and turn off the lights.

We also incorporated some fun routines, like “family game night” on Fridays and “pancake breakfast” on Saturdays.

Tips for Creating Routines That Stick

• Start Small: Don’t try to implement too many routines at once. Begin with one or two and gradually add more.
• Make it Visual: Use a visual schedule with pictures or drawings, especially for younger kids.
• Be Consistent: Consistency is key. Stick to the routine as much as possible, even on weekends.
• Involve Your Kids: Let your kids help create the routines. They’re more likely to follow them if they have a say.
• Be Flexible: Life happens. Be prepared to adjust the routine when necessary.
• Make it Fun: Incorporate fun activities into the routines to make them more enjoyable.
• Lead by Example: Kids learn by watching you. Follow your own routines and show them the importance of organization.
• Reward and Praise: Acknowledge and praise your kids when they follow the routines.

The Rewards: A More Peaceful and Joyful Life

Implementing routines wasn’t always easy. There were days when we slipped up, and there was definitely some initial resistance from the kids. But the rewards have been immeasurable. Our house is calmer, more organized, and filled with less stress. The kids are happier and more confident, and I feel like I’m finally in control of my parenting journey.

Routines aren’t about being rigid or controlling. They’re about creating a foundation for a more peaceful and joyful life. They’re about giving your kids the tools they need to thrive. So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by the chaos of parenting, I encourage you to give routines a try. You might be surprised at the difference they make!